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Aspergers

2010.03.24 21:25 Aspergers

For safe and helpful conversation with people who have Asperger's Syndrome or those close to them. We also welcome people with other autism spectrum disorders.
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2017.06.21 01:09 JacoboBlandonPineda aspergers irl

I tried to get this up from the ground but wasn't able to, and people hated it, so just go to /aspiememes instead, it has more content and it's more active anyway.
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2020.09.24 20:44 realdknation Quest for pawn knowledge turned into obsession.

So, since my pawn seems to be immune to being spontaneously hired by other arisens (0, so far), I am trying to three-star all enemies by myself. I have killed the cursed dragon 158 times with her so far, and still only two stars. She has been with me as strider, sourcerer and fighter. I have put meat in her inventory, and she has witnessed it rot several times. I have also seen her doing perfect blocks when it snaps after her. She's been toying around with elements, wings have been thrashed, and horns have been broken. She has seen the rancid bait meat dragon's and the Pope-dragon and the lost city dragon many times now. They have been silenced, revived, pope-inhabited, and so on. Let's just say that I'm slightly annoyed by the missing star.
What am I missing?!
As if it wasn't painful enough, trying to throw an explosive barrel in the mouth of a hydra.. Multiple times!
Right now I'm mostly focusing on grinding Banshees, Pyre Saurians, Poisoned Undead and Dragonkin.
If anyone wants to take her out on a slaughterfest, I would be happy, maybe she will pick up something from someone with other strategies.
She is a fighter now, but I can change her to whatever, but hopefully not warrior. She has levelled 200 levels as strider, so she is a little bit all round in stats.
I don't expect gifts or anything, just pawn knowledge. And I can take your pawn out on a date if you want, and if you're missing a bone lantern, moonshimmer pelt or anything, you got it. :)
I just think she needs to start seeing others...
Her name is Eda. She is Challenger - Scather - Utilitarian.
Sword skills: Hindsight sweep, Heavenward lash, Antler toss.
Shield skills: Shield drum (but I will remove it as soon as I meet Olra next time, because it is annoying the crap out of me.)
Auguments: Vehemence, Clout, Stability, Ferocity, Prescience, Sinew.
Equipment: GF Cursed bite, GF Dread aspis. She wears GF immortal set, except for the boots, GF Hellfire greaves.
I play on Nintendo Switch. Her pawn ID is DDF5-A4E5-B743 And my friend code is SW-2040-3471-3357, so you can have her without rift crystal cost.
Thanks in advance to anyone who might want to add to my pawn's bestiary knowledge. :)
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2020.09.24 11:59 AliceOfWonderland_ TBH I think I might be stuck being single for the rest of my life....

TBH I think I might be stuck being single for the rest of my life.
I know apparently a lot of aspies don’t work (for whatever reason) and I want a career in medicine, so tbh dating someone who does not work is just not gonna work.
The main reason are a) I can’t financially support someone else while I am in school, and b) they are probably going to want to talk and stuff all the time while I am busy with work or school.
And tbh I don’t see a NT wanting to date someone with aspergers who does receive some minimal services for disability, I just feel they would think I’m like retarded or something.
I’ve also had some abusive relationships and have issues with having sex right off the bat which eliminates a huge pool of people (and I am still a virgin at 26, lame I know).
IDK, tbh I might just remain single and have kids through IVF if I want them.
I would like to be loved in the romantic sense, but it’s just not in the cards for me tbh.
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2020.09.24 11:39 throwRAaspiepartner Undiagnosed Aspie Relationship

I (33f) am approaching 2 years dating with my favourite human (34m). We live together.
After lots of therapy and interventions and support, I came to realise in my late 20s that I very likely have asperger profiles. None of the professionals I interacted with were able to clinically diagnose me, but in any case I am navigating the world well so never felt the need to pursue it.
I believe my partner also has asperger profiles. He is super different to me but very Aspie. It has made for super slow progress, and our relationship is a little bit strange to others but I adore him to bits. I've come to appreciate the different ways he shows he cares and accept that NOT giving him a hug is the best way to show him love. I mentioned it once in passing but not since.
OK so the tough bit... my partner can't visualise the next year let alone forever so we've kind of hit a brick wall. I want us to move, have kids e.t.c. He says he wants those things, but he also has huge anxiety about making bad decisions so his approach is to do nothing. His risk adverse approach has stalled other plans that have nothing to do with me as well.
So my questions are:
  1. Should I be encouraging him to look into aspergers and whether he sees himself? I feel like a good friend would but would that be over-stepping? (I have a habit of being honest and overstepping with good intentions and horrible results).
  2. Is there anything I can do to help him future plan / feel better about the future? I want him to feel empowered and also (selfishly) I don't want to lose my favourite person because he is scared of messing up.
I'm really sorry if I offend anyone in this post, I haven't really engaged with the aspergers community and may have explained things badly. Please correct me with kindness!
Edit: 1 word and grammar
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2020.09.24 05:04 commieantifash Need Advice - Trying to Date an Aspie

Hey everyone. Hope all are doing well.

I have been going on zoom movie "dates" (hopefully graduate to IRL soon) with a really sweet, smart, funny, and absolutely beautiful girl with asperger's. She is so incredible and smart and her smile makes me weak. I think I might really like her.

We met through a mutual friend and also text a lot. She has also opened up a bit to me about stuff.

I'm wondering if anyone can give advice further on being close to her? She is introverted and by her own admission isn't social and hasn't dated much.

I really want things to go well with her. I have other friends on the spectrum including some who post here and they are great people, and she is absolutely amazing. I'm wondering if anyone can give me more tips on courting and dating girls on the spectrum?
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2020.09.21 21:07 Psych-Aspi Does He like me?

Hi, I’m (F,23) very new here. So I apologize if anything here is irrelevant. (I have Aspergers)
Almost a year ago, (When the majority of this happened.) I met a boy (M,21) at the new school I was going to. At the time, I was already in a relationship. However, I broke up with the (Now ex) boyfriend (M, 28) as he was emotionally abusive. I won’t go into that, that’s not why I’m writing this.
After I broke up with him, the ex continued to harass me. This gem of a guy helped me through it. Listening to my ramblings, telling me he would scare my ex off, giving me something to laugh at, and a LOT of reassurance that I never deserved this abuse. He even continues to keep an eye on my Ex’s social media in case he writes something bad about me. If the ex does, he’ll let me know and will give me advice on how to go forward. Unfortunately, the ex keeps harassing me to this day.
At the same time, he’s been helping me to curb some of my impulsivity and give me advice and insights on socialization. He usually will ask me a lot of questions about my Asperger’s. He’s told me that I’m close to normal, but it’s up to me where I go. He’s also told me that he’s never met anyone as loyal as me. My friends seem to think he likes me, as he usually smiles at me in the halls or when I walk in the classroom. One friend even pointed out that she figured there was something between us and that he treats me differently.
OK, here’s the juicier stuff, he definitely seems to trust me, as we used to hang out at school at a place he really liked (Pre-Covid of course). He’s opened up to me about things. Sorry, these are things he told me in confidence, so no details. We usually took nightly walks from class to the parking lot, he once had an umbrella over me, and on the last day of last year's fall semester, he spent like, the whole day with me. We split off twice and he came right back to the spot he found me. A couple of times I caught him staring, and I can recall a couple time where he was doing the good kind of stalking. I once tried to ask him to a party but he had work.
He also remembered my birthday, and got me a packet of Kit-Kats. But these weren't ANY Kit-Kats...FOUR KIT-KATS PUT TOGETHER!!!!! That's what we're looking at here.
When Valentine's Day came, and I got him a paperweight and chocolate. When we sat to talk, I put my arm up on the couch and he maneuvered himself right next to me! As I was joking around about "forgetting our 3 minute anniversary" (Which he was laughing with me), he said quietly: "I would have remembered."
After the last time I saw him in person, he sent me a message asking if I was OK. Because he saw that I was sad and he knew how much I like school.
So, I’ve heard that Aspie girls tend to have a “Mother Hen” Friend who looks out for them and gives them advice on social situations. But…no one’s ever told me what to do if I fall in love with them.
I wouldn’t know flirting unless it’s obvious. (He did say I was cute one time.) Not to mention, Covid definitely changed the dating game. I feel like it’s staring me in the face that he likes me, and I might be second-guessing myself. But, I’m REALLY afraid of rejection and losing this person as a friend.
TL;DR: I think this guy likes me, and it's probably obvious.
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2020.09.20 23:13 stonesthrowaway55555 Giving up custody

Throwaway obviously. I know I am going to get crucified by some for even considering this. Trust me I am not making this decision lightly.
I am a 30 year old single male who has full custody of my 11 year old autistic son. My son has Autism level 1. He's an aspie kid through and through. He has ADHD, speech language delay, occupational therapy issues and most likely undiagnosed anxiety.
I have ADHD, anxiety and possibly BPD which isn't terrible. Well, BPD is. What is terrible I think is how I treat my son. I have long suspect I either have social communication disorder or something along those lines myself.
He has a hell of a time communicating and I have a hell of a time trying to understand what he's trying to say. I think we've gotten to the point where he says something, I decipher what he says, I repeat it back to him to verify what he said, he doesn't understand what I am saying and just blindly agrees. End of conversation. He and I share the same ADHDism where we can both talk your head off about things we are interested in.
I treat him so terribly. Its like I don't know how to be a warm and loving person let alone a warm and loving parent. I try so hard and I feel like I am putting on a show for the general public but privately our home is like a prison. Our home is dark and gloomy constantly. We hardly interact when were at home. It's overwhelming trying to just do simple activities that men bond over. Playing catch involves reteaching him how to catch and throw, working on the car involves reteaching him how to use a wrench, everything involves some sort of teaching. Using transitional phrases has become a norm. To a point where I am saying these phrases to other adults. I have to tell him to keep walking, ask him if he's ready to go, tell him to say hi and bye and tell him to open a door. Daily. I yell and scream sometimes and I am very "matter of fact" and blunt with him.
I was dating someone but essentially felt like a fraud. I broke off the relationship for many reasons but one of the biggest reasons was I thought if I couldn't treat this sweet little boy like a decent human why do I deserve to be in a relationship. I've considered ending things multiple times because I simply feel I cannot from a healthy loving relationship with him and giving up custody was not an option for me. I saw no way out of this and couldn't figure out how I would explain this to others. Would this just be another dark secret I would hide from people? How could I tell people I failed as a parent, that I chose my life over our life?
I was considering somehow giving custody back to his mother. I am being medically discharged from the military and have no idea where I'm going. I've been so focused on him I haven't even planned my exit strategy. His mother is a very weak parent. She provides no structure what so ever. She hands him a phone or tablet and that all he does with her. Since getting custody of him two years ago, I've gotten him so much help and services. With his mother he went from overweight, not diagnosed, failing grade school, to diagnosed, in ABA therapy, in speech and occupational therapy, a decent IEP and at a good weight. But he bonds with her, and if he'd have the choice it would be her over me. As much as I am emotionally damaging him, this seems like the greater hell to me.
Now, I'm at an a crossroad. I understand I am clearly not the best for him emotionally, his mother is not the best overall for his well being. What can I do? Should I consult with a lawyer or social worker?
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2020.09.20 16:51 wilfredwantspancakes Anyone Else Unintentionally Date Autistic People Without Knowing They're Autistic? Also, how do I signal I'm autistic to find other aspies on gay tinder, without turning off the NT's?

  1. So my second (real) boyfriend was autistic, I knew he was, he said I was, I denied it
  2. My third boyfriend I suspect was autistic. He was bad at socializing and had a special interest in firearms and explosives. Like he would go into special interest god mode whenever war or guns or explosives were brought up. (My special interest is political theory so I liked his military stuff)
  3. My fourth boyfriend denied vehemently that he was autistic (at the time I strongly suspected myself but didn't have a diagnosis), but had similarly bad social skills, difficulty with eye contact, and never quite knew the volume of his voice (hey I'm bad with the last one too).
  4. My first boyfriend wasn't NT but he wasn't autistic. He had severe social anxiety, and was into another one of my special interests: folk punk. This was my longest relationship, but my least satisfying one.
So I'm now searching specifically for someone with HFA like me. But I don't want to exclude anyone because they're not autistic. So I'm wondering if anyone has any general advice in regards to how to phrase my tinder profile.
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2020.09.20 00:48 snikpoHkraM Assetto Corsa 2.4 Hours of Le Mans

Overview

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Rules

  • This is, for all intents and purposes, a league race and the same rules apply. Any deliberately dangerous driving will be reviewed and punished appropriately.
  • The corner cutting in AC is very unforgiving. If you get a slow down penalty, please serve it at the earliest and safest point. There are lots of very wide parts of the track (like the Mulsanne Straight). Do NOT wait until the Ford Chicanes to serve your penalty as the track is very narrow. If you get a penalty very late on a lap, pull to the far right on the start finish straight and slow down before the start/finish line.
  • If you do not serve a slow down penalty on the lap you receive it, you will be disqualified.
  • It is the duty of the faster classes to lap cars, NOT the duty of the lapped car to pull out of the way. This being said, be considerate to faster cars overtaking.
  • Whilst not a strict necessity, Helicorsa (linked below) is a fantastic mod for being able to see cars that are in your blindspots.

Classes (TBC)

LMP1 (Porsche 919 Hybrid 2016)

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GTE PRO

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GTE AM

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TBC

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This is not a necessarily forced division. If you feel you would be better suited in a different class, please let me know. Xbox and PS4 players will be placed as appropriate.

Mods

For those wondering if Sol is worth installing, have a look at this footage to see the day/night transition at la Sarthe

FAQ

Q: I don't own all of the relevant DLC, can I still join?
A: No, but you can always see if there's a deal on
Q: If I don't want to buy all of the DLC, which specific ones do I need?
A: The DLC for each car is as follows: Porsche 919 (2016) & Porsche 911 RSR 2017 (Porsche Pack Vol. 3), Corvette C7.R GTE (Dream Pack #1 DLC), Audi R18 & Toyota TS040 & Audi R8 LMS 2016 (Ready to Race Pack DLC). (GT3 cars are too many to list but find the list here)
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2020.09.19 02:36 throwaway54353465 Self judging on dating apps about having Aspergers and my current unemployment

Hey everyone. I'm 24M, turning 25 next month. A couple days ago, I rejoined match, and I've already found someone who I'm really interested in talking to. She's 28F, but there are a few things that are holding me back and making me feel like she's out of my league.
To start with, I have Aspergers. Although I'm high functioning, extroverted and have decent social skills, I still can have a hard time with nonverbal communication and "reading between the lines". I'll often have to ask for clarification on what someone means, since I don't always understand perfectly, and I feel like this could be annoying and make me seem like I'm stupid or immature to some people. Sometimes I have self-judging thoughts as well, like "why would a confident, successful neurotypical woman want to date a confused aspie?" I know that there are plenty of examples of people with Aspergers dating neurotypical people, but the thoughts aren't that easy to get rid of.
Also, I don't have a job right now. I'm a recent college graduate and with the pandemic going on I've been trying to get my bearings and get a sense of what places are hiring and which ones aren't before I dive in. I don't think I'm a basement dweller or anything, it's just that she appears to have a well established career and have her life together more than I do. This might be just because she's older, but I feel like I would seem either like an immature manchild or a basement dwelling neckbeard.
These issues are not specific to this one person, either. I've seen plenty of women on dating apps who I felt like I really wanted to get to know, but when I started trying to talk to them or even thinking about talking to them I never feel like I'm good enough for them. I'm considering deleting all of my apps.
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2020.09.19 01:44 Micahzz Feeling depressed.

Been talking to this girl for a while she was really cool and interesting. Now she's said she isn't romantically interested in me and i understand but now I'm back at square one which makes me feel incredibly sad. Online dating us absolutely hellish in my opinion. Aside from a handful of good people I've met from on there almost everyone is superficial and generally quite boring to me. And to be fair I'm sure I'm boring to them as well as most of my interests are focused on intellectual heavy stuff such as philosophy politics or religion. Anyway I could spend months on there trying to find someone and maybe get 4 responses if I'm lucky, half of which can only consistently reply with a single word when i generally put a lot of effort into the conversation often giving an entire paragraph only to get something like "cool" honestly I feel like fucking giving up at this point. Maybe ill have some luck over at aspie rfr.
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2020.09.19 01:26 throwaway54353465 Self judging about having Aspergers and my current unemployment

Hey everyone. I'm 24M, turning 25 next month. A couple days ago, I rejoined match, and I've already found someone who I'm really interested in talking to. She's 28F, but there are a few things that are holding me back and making me feel like she's out of my league.
To start with, I have Aspergers. Although I'm high functioning, extroverted and have decent social skills, I still can have a hard time with nonverbal communication and "reading between the lines". I'll often have to ask for clarification on what someone means, since I don't always understand perfectly, and I feel like this could be annoying and make me seem like I'm stupid or immature to some people. Sometimes I have self-judging thoughts as well, like "why would a confident, successful neurotypical woman want to date a confused aspie?" I know that there are plenty of examples of people with Aspergers dating neurotypical people, but the thoughts aren't that easy to get rid of.
Also, I don't have a job right now. I'm a recent college graduate and with the pandemic going on I've been trying to get my bearings and get a sense of what places are hiring and which ones aren't before I dive in. I don't think I'm a basement dweller or anything, it's just that she appears to have a well established career and have her life together more than I do. This might be just because she's older, but I feel like I would seem either like an immature manchild or a basement dwelling neckbeard.
These issues are not specific to this one person, either. I've seen plenty of women on dating apps who I felt like I really wanted to get to know, but when I started trying to talk to them or even thinking about talking to them I never feel like I'm good enough for them. I'm considering deleting all of my apps.
Thoughts?
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2020.09.19 00:41 throwaway54353465 Self judging about having Asparagus and my current unemployment

Hey everyone. I'm 24M, turning 25 next month. A couple days ago, I rejoined match, and I've already found someone who I'm really interested in talking to. She's 28F, but there are a few things that are holding me back and making me feel like she's out of my league.
To start with, I have Aspergers. Although I'm high functioning, extroverted and have decent social skills, I still can have a hard time with nonverbal communication and "reading between the lines". I'll often have to ask for clarification on what someone means, since I don't always understand perfectly, and I feel like this could be annoying and make me seem like I'm stupid or immature to some people. Sometimes I have self-judging thoughts as well, like "why would a confident, successful neurotypical woman want to date a confused aspie?" I know that there are plenty of examples of people with Aspergers dating neurotypical people, but the thoughts aren't that easy to get rid of.
Also, I don't have a job right now. I'm a recent college graduate and with the pandemic going on I've been trying to get my bearings and get a sense of what places are hiring and which ones aren't before I dive in. I don't think I'm a basement dweller or anything, it's just that she appears to have a well established career and have her life together more than I do. This might be just because she's older, but I feel like I would seem either like an immature manchild or a basement dwelling neckbeard.
These issues are not specific to this one person, either. I've seen plenty of women on dating apps who I felt like I really wanted to get to know, but when I started trying to talk to them or even thinking about talking to them I never feel like I'm good enough for them. I'm considering deleting all of my apps.
Thoughts?
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2020.09.18 03:48 approachpattern Feeling guilty and scared after wasting thousands of dollars

Over the last 10 years, I've spent about $20,000 (usd) on social events and supporting items (like Uber rides, nice clothes, a dating coach (a service which I'd highly recommend against), and increased rent from living in a town closer to a major city (since my workplace is a couple of hours away from a major city).
After all of my efforts and money spent, I've made zero new friends and zero new romantic relationships. It turns out that the social arena is heavily biased against Aspies and that no amount of "self-improvement" effort will make things better.
I feel really bad about wasting all of this money. I also recently got laid off from my job, and having this extra $20k would have made things a lot better.
Has anyone here ever wasted or lost a lot of money? Anyone know any advice for feeling better?
Edit: Thanks so much to everyone who replied. You gave me a lot of new ways of looking at the situation.
I got some messages from people asking me to connect them to my former dating coach, so I'm assuming that when I wrote "I'd highly recommend against", some people missed the word "against".
The dating coach was really bad. She was very smooth talking and initially promised me that she could help. However, instead of listening to my concerns, she followed a one-size-fits-all solution to dating. She even yelled at me for having Asperger's.
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2020.09.17 18:48 jdm4003 Just wanted to put my One Piece fanboyism out there

I think I've been a fan of One Piece ever since late 2016. I was in my 8th grade year when I first started watching the anime and witnessed Monkey D Luffy pop out of the barrel. From then on, I began to fall in love with the goofiness of the world and the intense, heart riveting moments that define the series. I caught up to the anime by the time they started showing Zou and I've been with the journey ever since via the manga (I'm up to date with the Wano Arc in the manga btw)
Earlier this year, I finally started collecting manga, so I went out and bought One Piece volumes. Currently, I'm up to volume 45 in my collection and I think I've fallen in love with this story all over again to the point where it might be an obsession lol. Being an Aspie and all, that sort of stuff tends to happen to me with the stuff I really like. Seeing the immaculate story telling that Eiichiro Oda creates in physical form is a blessing.
So far, my favorite arcs on this reread is definitely Water 7/Enies Lobby. There's just something timeless about a group of ragtag pirates challenging the heart of the entire World Government all for the sake of a woman who believed that her entire existence is a crime, but with the Straw Hats, she finally found a reason to live. Also, I really loved Usopp (my favorite SH besides Luffy) and his character arc during the Water 7 Saga. Even he realized that the Going Merry was done for, but still, what he was fighting most was his own insecurities. He couldn't find self worth in himself and was afraid that the crew would just leave him behind. But when Robin was prepared to sacrifice herself, he stepped up as the amazing Sniper King and did the things that the Monster Trio couldn't in order to save her. I think probably why I can relate to both Usopp and Robin is because I personally have struggled with feelings of worthlessness and insecurities too, so when Oda kept pushing the theme of living in these arcs, it made me nearly cry but not as much as I cried when the crew had to put the Going Merry to rest.
Anyways, currently, I'm a senior in high school still checking the Shonen Jump app for whenever a new chapter comes out lol. Hopefully, I'll be able to purchase the third box set soon, so I can gush over the Summit War Saga again and maybe put my thoughts out on those. I kinda like analysing key themes and characters in the story arcs that I read, but I've never done one on here before. Sometimes on my Twitter tho. To wrap this up though, I'm thankful that I decided to join the One Piece cruise and as much as I would like for the series to last until I'm old and weary, Mr. Oda has been doing this weekly manga gig since before I was even born, so if he intends to wrap the story in the next 5 to 10 years, then I hope he puffs out his chest with enormous pride and goes out with a BOOM like a real man!
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2020.09.16 09:30 lo0kin4truth How to bring up with my dad that he may be on the spectrum

I (F22) have a strong suspicion that my dad (M46) is on the spectrum. My brother (M23) is diagnosed, as are three of our cousins (on my dad’s side). I suspect at least two more of our cousins are autistic as well. I haven’t heard of any of my dad’s parents or older relatives having autism, but he’s kind of not fond of the whole mental health thing, so it wouldn’t have come up anyway.
My dad grew up in poverty and alongside many siblings, so his parents wouldn’t have even had time to consider he was different. At least, they wouldn’t have had any way to do anything about it (seek professional help, educate themselves on mental health). He said he was bullied as a kid but always claimed from the context of being physically different than the bullies (skinny, pale). He is super stubborn, really likes one or two kinds of meals best. A ton of his favorites have just become the family’s favorite, i. e. vacation spots, books, movies. Just because he’s kinda the head of the household and if he has his preference he’ll pick specific things. He has a rapt fascination with a certain book series, and has read said book series and accompanying works at least ten separate times. I could go on and on about similar patterns I am recalling of him that match my boyfriend and brother (both autistic).
Now, I just always figured this was how he was, and never thought that he may be on the spectrum. He certainly didn’t seem to have the same social issues my brother has, and we were raised with a negative view of autism so even talking about it was pretty hush hush.
However, I’m currently dating someone who has aspergers, and I made a comment on an aspie post about how I wondered whether our potential kids would have a greater chance of being autistic since my brother is. But like, no one else in my family has it. I got a response that it is generally a genetic trait, and I suddenly compared things I know about my brother and my boyfriend and autism in general to my dad... and it’s basically a perfect match. Even going down the list of diagnosis requirements in the DSM. As I grew up, I started to pick up on how dad will often overshare in conversations, to the point that it becomes uncomfortable for family members. This has translated into a lecture parenting style that my brother and I have been on the receiving end of. I could go on and on.
ANYWAY. All that to say. I think dad could be autistic. But he’s not gung ho about mental health awareness, and I think my parents still see autism as like a disease or illness. Something negative that isn’t desirable. I used to see it that way too, until I met my boyfriend and saw the diagnosis through a completely different lens.
So, how should I bring it up?
Friend suggested bringing it up to mom first just to see what she says. But if she just says “I don’t think so,” then what?? Like it would kinda be banking on her seeing connections... but even then, that feels like a backwards way to do it. But giving dad a call and saying “Hey I’ve been thinking you might be autistic” feels harsh and accusatory.
TLDR; I (F22) am just now realizing that my dad (M46) is likely autistic. I want to bring it up to him and mom, but they both have a negative view of mental health and even autism, based on how me and my autistic brother (M23) were raised. How should I approach this?
Want to add that my main desire in bringing this up is that it might help my mom understand my dad more and vice verse. I’ve literally heard her say that he is not good at being loving, which is such an NT way of interpreting autistic behavior.
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2020.09.16 04:02 yummisushi I gave up on my Aspie Interest

I’ve written here a few times, but just a quick background... I met this guy online about a year ago, we hung out a couple times, then he pretty much ghosted me, texted me a couple of months later and apologized, said he was going through a bunch of stuff, I said it’s okay, we started talking again and maybe hung out 3 more times in person.
So since the last time we hung out, we would still text sporadically which had become the norm and I was very understanding of his lack of contact even though I was always uneasy that he was just going to ghost me again. I’ve been trying to make plans to hang out with him in person for weeks and weeks and he kept giving me excuse after excuse. The last time we chatted I blatantly said, “you know this is nice and all, but it would be nice if we could go on a date.” He immediately stopped texting.
I gave him a week before saying anything again. I said, “I guess I’m going to interpret your lack of response as a disinterest in going on a date with me. TWO days later he responds with, “huh?”... “I’ve been busy with work.” So I wrote back, “we were talking back and forth for over an hour and the minute I mention a date, you stop responding. What else am I supposed to think other than you have no interest. Am I wrong?” Again, no response.
So I decided I’m over trying. I’m over giving him the benefit of the doubt. I’m over excusing the fact that he makes me feel worthless. I’ve told him on many occasions that if he’s busy or feels like he can’t talk, it’s okay, but just to give me a quick two second text and just say so, not to leave me questioning everything for days, weeks at a time. And he has always said, sorry, he understands, but never followed through on anything.
I’ve just been so tired of waiting around for him to come around. So I reactivated my online profile again and actually connected with someone else. He’s an NT, like me, and he actually asks me questions and engages in the conversation and it’s such a stark difference from what I’ve been experiencing this past year with my Aspie interest. So a few days ago, I finally get a text from my ex Aspie interest. “Hello. How are you?” And then I started feeling guilty for moving on. I gave him a quick short answer. “Hi. I’ve been busy, tired. You?” No response. It’s been days and still no response. And you know what? I don’t feel guilty anymore. But I still feel like maybe I owe him a text letting him know I’m not interested anymore? Is it worth saying anything at all at this point? I really wish I had a success story here, and sorry if this post is a bummer...
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2020.09.14 19:53 tobpe93 As a non-NT I can clash very hard with other non-NTs.

I (an aspie) have picked up Tinder again and a few days back I swiped a person right. I could tell from the start that she wasn't a person I wanted a romantic connection with and her profile said that she was only looking for friends. We matched and she immediately started talking to me. It started with the usual stuff about telling each other about ourselves. Then she told me that she thought that I was attractive. I said "thank you" instead of "you too", because I didn't want to be dishonest. At this point I was trying to sleep, but I saw that she kept sending messages. I woke up to four messages about what my dream date would be, that she looked forward to talking to me more, a wish good night and a wish good morning. At this point I kinda stopped responding. Until I received a message asking me if I wanted to meet up soon, I responded that I wanted to keep up social distancing (which is a bad excuse judging from how I have lived the last months), but she responded that we could meet up and still keep our distance. I have no evidence that she isn't NT, but it is an educated guess.
There is of course much truth to aspies getting along well with aspies. But I very often get annoyed by and have a hard time to understand other aspies. Mostly because of my hyper sensitivity as an aspie and how I try to banish some traits from myself and then find the traits in others. I have been on both ends of relationships where one part is obsessive and the other part is mostly just pitying, both ends are exhausting.
Do you feel that you sometimes have a hard time with aspies because you are aspies?
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2020.09.13 12:52 Putthepitadown Autism, cross-cultural, age gap relationship doubts. (M27) (M55)

I’ve been holding back posting here. I feel like I’m in a situation not many people can relate to — that’s why I no longer come to my friends for advice. They, understandably, place my relationship with my BF (one year yesterday) into their own dynamics and standards. Tho, to be fair, I feel like I’m making a lot of excuses on his behalf instead of just only respecting his ASD. There’s a lot of personal details being shared today - and I’m a little pensive about it.
I have lived in Taiwan for 3 years. I never set out to date an older - very much older boyfriend and neither did he seek out a foreign one.
Yesterday was our anniversary. I had a doctor’s appointment to get results from different brain examinations. I been having seizures this summer and I lost part of my hearing (having ringing and noises and lost of balance etc) in April or May. He didn’t answer texts the day of the appointment, prior, nor yesterday. We finally had a fight about it today.
Last Tuesday, before the appointment, we talked and had a quick fight in which he made a condescending remark on me telling him the time and place of the appointment. I had taken a picture of it - it’s in Chinese - and I said it was a flex appointment in the morning on Friday. He wrote, “Honey, it’s so important and you missed it, it’s under the premise of you know it’s IN THE MORN”.
To which I simply circled the info on the paper and called him out. He said sorry and I said I needed to disengage from this conversation. He had moments prior to this text conversation bragged about his respectful behavior and that we only speak in English out of respect for me. He even wrote, “About the language thing, before our first date out I've promised helping you with mandarin as a friend, but you turned me down many times”.
Truth is I have spoken to him in Chinese at most a dozen times. Each time he’s shut me down. One time he was irate and hungry and shouted that my Chinese as shit and left storming.
He has showed me videos of foreigners and their Chinese and I’ve asked him to stop and explained why it was uncomfortable for me.
Anyhow. I didn’t talk to him the day after. The entire day. I was mulling over this year and how many times I’ve felt like communication was affected by many other factors. It’s hard for him to see how other people think and feel (ASD) and up to this point I have written him a get out of jail free card because I understand many things I may take offense to is not intended on his part. That’s entirely true.
He didn’t talk to me the following 4 days. I went to my appointment alone and texted him the details in several texts. Wished him happy anniversary, which if I’m being honest here I was being snarky.
He had logged out of Instagram that week so he didn’t see the messages and photos I sent. This is important as I bring up the second issue. Instagram. First, we communicate on Instagram when we feel like we can’t use words and/or we are hurt or upset. It’s like a non verbal communication link. On 3-4 occasions he has blocked me on Instagram. (I have never done this, I think it’s immature especially since our way of reaching out) we have had talks about this and why it’s not cool. So I feel him logging out of Instagram and using that as an excuse was shitty of him.
His excuse for all of this was, you didn’t talk to me so “I logged out on instagram after you went silent here”. That’s it. We hashed it out but he didn’t think he was in the wrong but I was because I started it.
I don’t need to get people to agree with me on that argument - it’s just important to give examples 100% as they are for before I continue rambling.
Back to Instagram he’s messaged guys on there on two occasions. How do I know? He accidentally messaged me twice instead of them. I have later been shown the messages and no he’s not cheating. But it sat in the back of my mind. He had downloaded many photos of guys on his phone, bodies - but also faces too. The faces actually bother me a lot. This wouldn’t irk me if everything else was normal - except he doesn’t have a single photo of me. Like at all. He’s never asked for one. He’s never sent a photo (I have asked six times during the first four months and given up). We have never taken a picture together.
There was a period in spring where I was feeling really insecure. Plus he had accused me of sleeping with other guys because I didn’t talk much (didn’t shut him out just was quiet and passive) for 9 days after I had recently lost my hearing and started meds which caused me severe symptoms (such as suicidal thoughts - I reached out appropriately to get help but didn’t bring up that to my boyfriend - even today. I felt it would be manipulative). I felt hurt that he immediately jumped to that and we had a fight then. He said he didn’t know if he could trust me because I’ve just randomly giving excuses - my medical situation - to excuse my behavior. That stuck with me.
The following weeks because we weren’t having intimacy I asked if he found me attractive and he didn’t answer. So I was broken. He later says he was just dumbstruck and tbf to his ASD maybe that’s just me getting offended over nothing.
Fast forward we had a rough summer. But in August I had brought up everything - including talks not mentioned here - and he was shocked. It didn’t even occur to him that I was hurt over this and that.
I asked that he be more expressive with affection, and how I felt insecure, and wanting apologies for when I’m hurt. He started to change immediately for that month. It’s because of that that I didn’t leave him. He apologized for stomping off that day - that happened later the next week - and he was verbally more affectionate and even more touchy (he doesn’t do pda because of ASD and I respect that and haven’t forced him to but I knew it was him trying hard and I appreciated it.)
Only I haven’t seen him in a month. He’s been busy doing translation work. What was supposed to be a week, became two and now four.
We have had intimacy I think 3 times at most since May. All of which is me doing everything and just getting my part done on my own. So I’m very much not satisfied there. I brought it up.
He said - and to be fair he’s said it in February - that couples don’t always stay attracted or passionate - that goes away. Only, it’s been a year today and it’s been 6 or 8 times total. And about 2 times were very bad. Like not complaining cause it was t sexy but like there was a verbal exchange during that was kinda shitty so we had a talk after. He is literally always hard. He brags about it and it’s true. Ironically I have had issues this past 2 months cause of anxiety and honestly feeling kinda shitty and unsexy. I appreciate the verbal affection but it’s hard to get over.
I feel like an idiot. So many conversations end with him saying I have extreme expectations or that Im hyper emotional and sensitive and like getting angry.
I have been filling myself up with so much doubt and reservations on my behavior. Am I a hyper emotional unstable guy? I could be. I get hurt easily and I’m with a man who says things he doesn’t mean and doesn’t think he should apologize for it. Which that may be valid but just a case of not being a match. I have this fear that I’m being toxic, or manipulative
For example he will forget things he says quite quickly and I’ll bring it up and it looks as tho I’m gaslighting him, telling him things he had said which he doesn’t believe. Which makes me doubt myself in return.
To add some more - uh spice? - to this. He’s mentioned a green card marriage even if we break up so I can get nationalized. Which I said, I do want to nationalize, but we can talk about it in 6 months and then again in another 6 months after that. We have a relationship to rebuild first. It doesn’t save a relationship any more than a baby. He actually seemed to be pleased saying he should also work on building my trust.
I think his expectations of a relationship are being met. Mine aren’t. I shouldn’t feel guilty that I want to break up with him. But I do terribly and I think it’s the ASD. I feel like in August he was trying. I was happy then. And holding this against him seems mean. It’s just that I’m not happy. And part of me thinks if he tried more or consistently I’d be happy, and the other part of me says that’s an unrealistic expectation of a person with ASD.
It’s not right? Would I be wrong to leave because I don’t want to date an aspie? Am I toxic?
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2020.09.12 17:44 genericusername4724 Anyone have dating profile tips?

Hi. I’ve had all dating apps deleted for the past 3 months because I needed a mental cleanse from the overwhelming nature of them.
However...I was thinking of going back.
As an aspie, I feel like I have no awareness on what women want to see on male profiles. I have a hard time selling myself, because I’m not yet sure about what my true strengths are.
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For guys: have any of you made a change on your profile which led to better results?
For girls: what are you looking for when you swipe right or left? What is it that you need to see in the pictures? And if you had to pick between a funny profile and a genuine profile...what would it be and why?
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2020.09.12 10:15 _pixieking HELPPPP

Hi all. I'm 25 w/ aspergers The love of my life is NT... And this is a story about the dilemma I am currently facing. So.
I had my girlfriend of close to two years over for what was meant to be a week or so.. It worked out in a way because I was "working from home" for the majority of the week.. My work days were Thursday and Friday.. And my girlfriend was seemly okay with it.. I was a bit excited to play house.. We even got a visitor.. Her best friend.
Fast forward.. It was around 7pm (on Thursday) , and her friend left.. I really needed to use the loo.. So I expressed that.. Like I REALLY needed to go, I mean.. It was the first time since work was done that I needed to visit the toilet. But she insisted on going first and so she did.. Said she wouldn't be long.. But she was taking forever and I couldn't understand.. Why.. I peeped through the door hole.. (Wrong I know) but I saw her with a little bag.. And was confused. Maybe they're tampons?! It was my turn to go.. And for some reason.. I checked her toiletry bag.. I found the little black bag.. And to my surprise.. I found a white powder with straws and cards inside. I know I crossed boundaries. But.. She was acting SO strange.
That peek through the door hole.. I.. Witnessed my girlfriend taking drugs.. Drugs are bad.. I'm not a fan.. I felt lied to.. I felt deceived.. I was so confused.. And I didn't know what to so.. I was worried.. I called my best friend.. Asked for advice.. Which wasn't so helpful.. So then I called her mom. Yes, her mom.. Its what my gut told me to do.. We spoke on the phone for a whole 16 minutes.. And she advised me to.. Not say a word about it.. And to bring her home the next day.. She told me to calm down.. And she said that.. She's been through it before.. And it's hard. But, I wanted the truth.. And I wanted her to be honest to me.. 😔 I've never lied to my girlfriend.. And I was under the impression she's never lied to me.
I eventually confronted her.. About it.. But she denied it.. She said it was her friends.. And I told her.. I saw her use it.. She said she slipped up.
Im sure about other aspies but.. I tend to shut down when in shock.. I can't think of anything or speak.. - that's what happened for the rest of Thursday night. I fell asleep.. And then Friday was work again.. I sat next to her on Friday morning and spoke to her.. Before leaving for work.. I cried a little because things started making more sense.. And then I cried more on the way to work.. And at work.. I was a wreck. My friend/colleague urged me.. To go home and to talk to her.. - I wanted to do that.. But I guess I needed a little push. So I did.. I went home and I spoke to her.. I was upset.. But she needs help.. And my feelings will never change. She urged me to not tell her mom.. In fear that she'd be kicked out.. But little did she know.. Her mom already knew.. I spoke to her mom about her feeling.. Like she had no one to talk to.. And that she was afraid of being kicked out and losing her family.. To which her mom responded.. She'd booked a counsellor and she wouldn't kick her out.. So I think it was the right thing to do.. I think I made the right decision.
Do you guys think I did the wrong thing? Does she hate me now.. And.. Will she get better.. Also I don't know if she still.. Is dating me. I'd like for other NTs to weigh in.. And aspies.. Too.. I still love her.. And want her to.. Get better.. I don't know for sure how long she's been doing drugs.. But.. Help me understand my situation please.
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2020.09.11 21:57 ForerunnerAI10 I Hear Aspie Women Are More Like Men, Is That True?

It's a stereotype that Aspie Women and girls behave more like NT men. To those who dated Aspie women, is this true?
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2020.09.11 13:30 aina69xd I want to get high

Hi, so title says it all, but heres some quick background info why i want to ruin my life jk.Im not sure if that's a smart idea lol. I mean its defenitely not smart but fuck it xd...Anyways i've been depressive'is all my life since i can remember myself so since my teen years i love to get drunk on weekends and sometimes even in the middle of the week. But it kinda gets boring to just get drunk and the hangovers are killing me im 25 now. 5 years ago it was easier. So my psychiatrist gave me some lexotanil,xanax and sometimes i would take like 6mg of bromazepam(lexotanil) and drink like 4-5 beers and i would get fucked up like on 9 beers but less hangover.xD and xanax is so much fun too, but blackouts its not really fun but again i love the feeling of xanax and no im not addicted(just yet lol) ive been prescribed my second 0.5mg 30 tablets like a week ago. Only drank on weekend like 7 xans......
I love benzodiazepines as they are downers just like opiates? Slowing cns and so on..? So i've been reading alot about opiates and would like to try something but like a micro dose for the first times. I've read about apap(paracetamol?) Does it makes you high or what because i have it i think right now xD my other drug of choice would be tramadol or whatever my doctor(in europe) can prescribe me. I have found some oxycodone tabs in my car that i bought lol but their expiratiob date is expire for like 3 months and i think i lost them. I just want to get high i dont want to take xanax again(its friday btw i want to have fun)
So what should i try or i should stop being retarded and get myself ssri drugs or somethinf because im wishing for a deathwish? And sry my english sucks real bad im not quite used to writing such long texts in english. I think i might have aspies too.:D Anyways i want to get high.:(
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